Fish Eaters: The Whys and Hows of Traditional Catholicism

``Where the Bishop is, there let the multitude of believers be;
even as where Jesus is, there is the Catholic Church'' Ignatius of Antioch, 1st c. A.D

About Me


General Stuff

I was born on January 21, 1963 in Indianapolis, Indiana, and have lived here all my life except for four hellish years I spent just outside Seattle. I never want to live outside of Indiana again.

I'm Italian-English American.

I'm an INFJ, curious, emotionally intense but generally laid-back with regard to worrying, passionate, sickly, myopic, neurotic, self-conscious, good-willed, Franciscanesque in spirituality, awed, inspired by beauty, and prone to sadness -- but just as prone to silly goofery. I can be a total froot loop.

I am very sleep-disordered, tending to be up at night but sometimes cycling around the clock in a haphazard fashion.

I'm generally introverted with bursts of extraversion that can make me come off as the class clown, and after which I have to be alone to "re-charge."

My life has had a few interesting twists and turns that make describing it all rather difficult. Lots of long stories...

I can be friends with pretty much anybody -- from firemen to doctors to bikers to professor to everyone in between. I can pal up with people of all races, creeds, colors, ages, gender identities and sexual persuasions -- none of that matters to me friendship-wise, though I generally tend to befriend and relate to men more often than women.

At any rate, when it comes to friends, I don't have to agree with someone about everything in order to pal up. What matter to me are integrity, good will, "chemistry," and a sense of humor. I like it, too, when someone can teach me things.

I have three years of college behind me but didn't graduate. I worked in my family's bakery for 20 years and then, after it closed, spent 10 years as an almost literal hermit. It was during this "hermit phase" that I wrote the bulk of the FishEaters website. I so rarely left the house that when I finally did venture forth, I didn't recognize the new currency! It's kind of funny thinking back.  I went from being a "hermit" here in Indiana to moving to a place outside of Seattle for a few years (long story). I'm now back in the house I'd left and where I've now lived for almost 30 years (minus those 4 Washington years).


Believe it or not, no joke, I'm a paleoconservative constitutional monarchist -- for the little guy and the smallest, least divisive, most sane form of government possible. I've thought a lot about such things...

As things are, though, given our political system and how most people freak out at the very idea of monarchy, I guess I can be described as "libertarian-ish" (though I'm not a Party member and definitely am not an Objectivist).

I think usury, fractional reserve banking,  fiat currencies, and institutions like the Federal Reserve are the keys to how things have come to be the way they are (the "1% problem," 5 corporations owning at least 90% of the media, the loss of popular control over the political processes and our own cultures in the West, etc.)

Intellectual Interests

I'm into learning about: History; social and cultural phenomena; human nature; psychology; sex; relations between the sexes and between parents and children; men's rights; the importance of patriarchy; personality theories and classification; analyzing dreams; art and architecture; movie-making; medieval astrology; symbolism; the preternatural world; human evil, puzzles and riddles; and a slew of other things.

Things I Do For Fun

I'm into games and puzzles and such; having my few friends over to hang out; studying; reading; writing; making music; baking when I have surfaces to work on; making memory books; surfing the net; watching movies; watching animals; listening to old time radio; and going to the library when I can.

I love trying to do little "crafty" things, but can't say I'm talented at it.

One of my very favorite things to do is to go through 19th c. newspapers, medical journals, women's magazines, and other old publications. Tripped-out and fascinating!

Things I Love

Impersonators and impressionists; books; natural history, history, medical, and science museums; watching animals eat (I love having birdfeeders!); beautiful old buildings; bells; windchimes; cemeteries; old restaurant menus; symbolic depictions of the cosmos; old clocks; automatons; marionettes; music boxes; iridescence; brooches; the stars; the sea; bonfires; fireplaces (wish I had one); the Zodiac; kaleidoscopes; telescopes; microscopes; stereograms (I see them inverted; it's weird!); 3D effects; optical illusions; beautiful polished stones; willow trees; certain animals (especially wolves, elephants, octopi, whales, porpoises and dolphins, birds (crows are too cool), cats, dogs, fancy rats, hens, owls, frogs, orb weavers, otters, beavers, praying mantises, dung beetles, fish); ballet (I know nothing about it, though) and watching really good dancers; flowers and flowering houseplants; Niagara Falls; those giant trees in California; snow; Sailors' Valentines; Autumn and Winter; artful memento mori; Christmas and Christmas cards; Hallowe'en; Easter; St. Valentine's Day and valentines; teaching bright, inquisitive kids things; being taught things by smart people; adults who still have a sense of wonder and awe... so many things. Oh yeah, nothing pleases me more than getting massaged by someone who knows what they're doing and where I ache. Sigh!

I love slang and Ebonics (though not in a P.C. way) and sometimes find myself talking that way and in a million other (bad) accents and voices just to be silly.

Idea of a Good Time

Having family or a friend or two or three or more over and, always with food and drink at hand, doing random stuff -- like watching movies, playing games, making things, writing things, baking or cooking stuff, getting buzzed and grabbing scripts and "rehearsing" for plays we'll never be in because we suck, planning on and practicing for going caroling at Christmastime, taking personality tests together, analyzing dreams, planning little parties, having a picnic, listening to old time radio shows, having bonfires, making informal book clubs, watching meteor showers at the right times of the year (one year I saw the Leonids put on a breathtaking show. I couldn't believe what I was seeing!). Anyway, just hanging and coming up with stuff, or sometimes, when the friends are close friends, just hanging and doing nothing together. Or doing different things separately, but in the same place, together.

Favorite Reads

I like: books about my intellectual interests; true crime; the Douay-Reims; Poe; Guy de Maupassant; fairy tales; beautiful art books; biographies of interesting people; strange old books like "Anomalies and Curiosities of Medicine"; M.F.K Fisher; and short stories.

Magazine-wise, I like Culture Wars; Chronicles; New Oxford Review; Taste of Home; and Vogue (I'm so not a fashionista type, but I love looking at the pictures).

Favorite Movies and TV Shows

I'm into old noirs, Hitchcock's stuff, Kubrick, and most anything with Barbara Stanwyck, Bette Davis, Joan Crawford, Cary Grant, or Cagney (Cagney dancing to "Give My Regards to Broadway" in "Yankee Doodle Dandy" is one of my all-time favorite movie moments. It totally kills me every time!).

I love: "A Streetcar Named Desire"; "All About Eve"; " The Women" (the original); "Mildred Pierce"; "Braveheart"; flicks with crazy-good dialogue -- like "Who's Afraid of Virginia Wolf?" and "Glengarry Glen Ross" -- and great, interesting characters, like "Jackie Brown" with Pam Grier, "Ramblin' Rose" with Laura Dern, "The Prime of Miss Jean Brodie," or "Freeway" with Reese Witherspoon.

One of the greatest movies ever is, in this Catholic's opinion, "The Passion of the Christ" -- but it's more a meditation than a "flick."

I totally love " The Outlaw Josey Wales", "Tombstone" and a very small handful of other Westerns, but that's not my favorite genre by any means.

I love the Godfather movies, gritty, 70s-era, set-in-NYC movies (e.g., Taxi Driver), horror (not slasher) flicks (I love 1958's "The Fly"!); schlocky, so-bad-they're-good movies (The Room!) and 70's-era made for TV horror stuff.

I almost always prefer drama over comedy, and love good documentaries about interesting people ("Grey Gardens"), History, Art, the natural world, things involving learning from and people doing facial reconstruction based on a find of old bones, or documentaries about things like engineering failures, how the Brooklyn Bridge was built -- whatever's interesting.

I really like Robert Duvall, Jimmy Stewart, Vincent Price, Mel Gibson, Irene Dunne, Claude Rains, Clint Eastwood, Fred Astaire, and Laura Dern.

Television-wise, I'm pretty old school and adore Columbo, old American sit-coms (Beverly Hillbillies, Andy Griffith, etc.), Fawlty Towers and other old British stuff (Are You Being Served?, Keeping Up Appearances). I also like some of the true crime stuff and documentary type shows. Some reality TV can be fun sometimes -- at least those shows where wives get traded, nannies deal with out-of-control kids, and Not-So-Sweet Sixteens spend trillions on parties. That last's a train-wreck I gotta watch if I see it's on. Sometimes it's good to just vege on "The Little Rascals" or "The Three Stooges." Sometimes I like to watch old movies or old TV just to feel a nostalgic sense of normalcy.

Favorite Music

Beethoven is The One classically (OK, "Romantically"), and I also dig Chopin, Bach, and Tchaikowsky.

I love 40s swing and the kind of jazz that was in "The Man with the Golden Arm" (I know nothing about jazz; I just know what I like when I hear it).

I love Caruso (got that from my Italian Grandpa) and great crooners like Bennett, Sinatra, Ella, Piaf, Billie Holiday, Judy Garland, Nina Simone, and Nat King Cole.

I love doo-wop, the young Elvis, Zeppelin; the Stones; the Beatles; the Doors; Jimi; T-Rex; old Aerosmith; Uncle Ted; Neil Young; Nirvana; Ozzy; Black Sabbath; Cream; BLS; Pantera; Bjork, and tons of others.

I dig old country, like Hank, Sr., Johnny Cash, and Loretta, and I love music I grew up with for sentimental reasons. I also like some rap/hip-hop, a few catchy pop tunes that come about now and then, and off-the-wall stuff like Gregorian Chant and Native American flute and drums.

Favorite Foods and Drinks

Greek; Italian; Thai; Indian; Mexican; seafood; cheeses; bread; macaroni and cheese; bacon; good old American Mom and Grandma food (R.I.P.); teriyaki; fair food; popcorn; pineapple; cherries; peaches; watermelon; almondy or lemony stuff; Amaretto; coffee; tea (mint, Earl Grey, Almond, and Chai are my favorites).

I've got a MAJOR sweet tooth and looove: pavlovas (be still, my heart!); ice cream; pecan pie; sugar cream pie; lemon, and coconut pies; spicy cakes; cookies; caramel apples.. My favorite things to get for Christmas are Mrs. Prindable gourmet jumbo apples with the milk chocolate, caramel, and pecans or walnuts, or chocolate-dipped Australian glaceed apricots. Oh, my gosh! Yes, sweets are the thing.

Favorite Flowers

Peonies, water lilies, gerbera daisies, white, pink, or green carnations, African violets, ranunculus, roses, lilacs, wisteria... I love 'em all, but these stand out.

Main Vices

Here's the big, politically incorrect deal-killer: I smoke. A lot. And am not all apologetic about it. I don't believe the "second-hand smoke" hype at all (though, of course, I don't want to won't smoke around people who are allergic and such), but will be miserable. I don't freak out at the site of a pregnant woman having a smoke, like Lucy and every other mother did for generations, or of people smoking around (Oh God, no!) children. I find the tobacco hysteria very annoying. It seems, though, that to many non-smokers, tobacco smoke smells awful, something I'm very self-conscious about, knowing my clothes and person are suffused with it.

As long as it's not mean-spirited and I have a sense of the motivations of the joker, I don't mind humor that some might consider "racist" or "sexist" and think that people are way too uptight lately.

I also tend to cuss. I don't mean to offend, and try to behave around people I think it'd bother. I am, though, very touchy about taking the Lord's Name in vain.


I'm a hair-twirler from way back.

I have to have water, coffee or tea, and cigarettes with me at all times.

Being Italian-American, I can get very touchy-feely with people, often too quickly. I think I can come off as too "exuberant" sometimes. OK, often.

I prefer to sit cross-legged or with legs up somehow, even when sitting on chairs.

I'm a total nester and feel a little awry outside of my home, so I much, much, MUCH prefer that friends come to my house rather than me going to theirs. I'm not a big "goer-outer".

I'm a "behind the scenes" type, not digging at all the idea of being famous. Being respected and loved would be nice, but "famous"? Ah, hell no!

I hate, hate, HATE to have my picture taken. It's not that I'm hideous (I'm not, actually, by non-Photosthopped standards LOL), but I am on film and despise cameras aimed in my general direction.

I loathe fluorescent lighting (that sort of atmosphere does no favor to Italians at all), extraneous, unwanted noise (I almost always mute commercials), and non-smoking environments.

I have symptomatic left ventricular hypertrophic cardiomyopathy (that disease that kills a lot of otherwise asymptomatic basketball players all of a sudden, out of the blue) that makes it a really, really bad idea for me to exert myself. I can get swoony and feel like passing out pretty easily. I also have myofascial pain syndrome, which is why I take massage very seriously as therapy.

Symbols That are Important to Me

The willow tree, the sea, the wolf, elephant, the sand dollar, the Moon, Saturn, the scarab, the North Star.


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