St.Valentine (Valentino) was a Roman priest who performed marriages in
spite of Claudius II's law against such (Claudius believed that
marriage was distracting to his soldiers, so outlawed it to them for a
time). Fr. Valentine was martyred in A.D. 270 on the Flammian way, and
at the site of his martyrdom, Julius I built a popular basilica.
Other than this, little is known. Because two other St. Valentines
share this Feast day ("Valentine" was an extremely common name for
Christians as it has the same root as the word "valor"), often their
stories are confused, but it is the Roman priest-martyr whom we honor
during the liturgy.
The relics of St. Valentine -- at least a great majority of them --
are, interestingly enough, in the Whitefriar Church associated with the
Calced Carmelites in Dublin, Ireland. They were excavated from the
Cemetery of St. Hippolytus, on the Triburtine Way in Rome in 1835 and
were then given to Fr. Spratt, an Irish Carmelite, by Pope Gregory XVI
in 1836. The relics, "together with a
small vessel tinged with his blood," were deposited "in a wooden case
covered with painted paper, well closed, tied with a red silk ribbon
and sealed with our seals and we have so delivered and consigned to
him, and we have granted unto him power in the Lord, to the end that he
may retain to himself, give to others, transmit beyond the city (Rome)
and in any church, oratory or chapel, to expose and place the said
blessed holy body for the public veneration of the faithful without,
however, an Office and Mass, conformably to the decree of the Sacred
Congregation of Rites, promulgated on the 11th day of August 1691," as
the letter accompanying the relics reads. On this Feast Day, his relics
are carried in procession, and a special Mass is offered for young
people and lovers.
Because of his
Nuptial Masses, he became the patron of lovers, the affianced, and
married couples, and fortuitous to the priest's association with
romance is the belief that halfway through the month of February, birds
choose their mates, hence St. Valentine's association with birds,
especially lovebirds and doves. Chaucer mentions this belief in his
"Parliament of Foules":
For this was
sent on Seynt Valentyne's day
Whan every foul cometh ther to choose his mate.
is the fact that red is both the color of Martrys and the color
associated with love. Red roses are also a symbol of both martyrom and
love, and had also always been associated with the Roman godess of
Venus' son, Cupid ("Eros" in Greek), god of love, was originally
depicted as a very handsome young man, but now as a winged putto
bearing a bow and arrow with which to smite hearts with love. His
image, along with the image of hearts he has pierced with his arrows,
are ubiquitous symbols of romantic love on this day.
Oldest existing valentine, British Museum
Day cards are a very ancient custom; one of the oldest extant
"valentines," as such St. Valentine's Day greetings -- and the persons
to whom they're sent -- came to be known, was sent in 1477 by Margery
Brews to her fiancÚ, John Paston, and can be seen now in the British
Museum. It reads:
Unto my right
well-beloved Valentine John Paston, squire, be this bill delivered.
Right reverent and worshipful and my right well-beloved valentine, I
recommend me unto you full heartedly, desiring to hear of your welfare,
which I beseech Almighty God long for to preserve unto his pleasure and
your hearts desire.
And if it pleases you to hear of my welfare, I am not in good health of
body nor of heart, nor shall I be till I hear from you.
For there knows no creature what pain that I endure, And even on the
pain of death I would reveal no more.
And my lady my mother hath laboured the matter to my father full
diligently, but she can no more get than you already know of, for which
God knoweth I am full sorry.
But if you love me, as I trust verily that you do, you will not leave
me therefore. For even if you had not half the livelihood that you
have, for to do the greatest labour that any woman alive might, I would
not forsake you.
And if you command me to keep me true wherever I go, indeed I will do
all my might you to love and never anyone else.
And if my friends say that I do amiss, they shall not stop me from
My heart me bids evermore to love you truly over all earthly things.
And if they be never so angry, I trust it shall be better in time
No more to you at this time, but the Holy Trinity have you in keeping.
And I beseech you that this bill be not seen by any non earthly
creature save only yourself.
And this letter was written at Topcroft with full heavy heart.
By your own Margery Brews
To send a very Catholic valentine to someone you love, how about using
a paraphrase of today's Collect as the basis for the text?
beseech Thee, O almighty God, that (Name of loved one), who celebrates
the heavenly birthday of blessed Valentine, Thy Martyr, may by his
intercession be delivered from all the evils that threaten (him/her).
Through our Lord Jesus Christ, Thy Son, Who liveth and reigneth with
Thee in the unity of the Holy Ghost, one God, world without end.
...with all the
personal, mushy stuff at the bottom! For a romantic card for a spouse,
some of the poetry found in Solomon's Canticle of Canticles -- a Book
which uses marital love as a metaphor for God's love for His Church --
cannot be surpassed for inspiration.
As to foods, oysters, chocolates, champagne, and heart-shaped foods are
all considered to be romantic.
Note to men: Don't forget St. Valentine's Day. Even the least romantic
woman appreciates being remembered on this lovely holy day. One needn't
(shouldn't!) spend lavish sums and buy into the marketing nonsense that
has become associated with all big Christian Feasts, but a single red
rose is just as lovely as an $80 dollar dozen, and chocolates in a
small box are as delicious as those in a large box; it is the
thought that counts. And it costs nothing to tell her you love her...
And a note to all: be sure to wish people "Happy Saint
Valentine's Day" rather than just "Happy Valentine's Day." This will
help bring the deeper meaning of the day into focus!